Parenting My Parents

It’s been awhile since I updated on how Dad is doing. He is entering week 5 in the hospital. About two weeks ago they discovered that he has diverticulitis. Apparently this is what sent him back to the hospital after his hernia surgery but was originally thought to be an infection from the hernia surgery – which there was, this just happened to be extra. Last week they did surgery to remove a ruptured portion of his colon and unfortunately had to do the surgical preparations for a colostomy bag, which he should only have to wear for 6-8 weeks. His recovery from this surgery is moving very slowly. He is struggling to eat more than 5 or 6 bites of soup for his liquid diet at each meal. We discovered yesterday that he has blood clots both in his legs and lungs. Thankfully the ones in his lungs are very tiny. They have started him on medicine to help clear those out. He has been confined to bed for the last 3-4 days to prevent the blood clots from moving. We went up to visit with him today and he was very happy to see Evey and Ben.

I must say it is so difficult to see what this has done to him both physically and emotionally. It’s very hard for me to believe that this is the same man that I know as my dad. I really think what is the most difficult for me is to see what this has done to his previously positive attitude. He has been very hard on my mom who I must say has been a rock through all of this. She has been at that hospital every single day and many many of the nights throughout his entire stay. And this is where the parenting my parents part comes in…today I felt I needed to step in and tell him to settle down and appreciate all she has done for him instead of questioning her dedication every time she leaves the hospital. I think I may have been a bit hard on him but at the same time I know it needed to be said because why I know he needs support Mom does too. I hope it’s a really long time before I have to even think about stepping into this role again.

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